I can tell you that I've never done anything in life until I, yes I, was ready to make those changes. No matter how many people try to point me to a direction or breathe down my neck to accomplish something, changes will not be made until I am ready to make those changes for myself. Maybe that's why I am not a superstar yet, or rich yet, or Oprah's best gay friend yet. I am not ready to make the change to GREATNESS yet...though truthfully I am destined for GREATNESS, and thought I have made the changes to accomplish it, just not sure why it has not happened yet. I am sure it's just around the corner.
Looking back, there are many instances when I did not do something or follow through on goals until I was truly ready to do it for myself. Case in point, I got my Bachelor's degree at the age of 31, after years of hearing people telling me...you need a degree, you need to finish school, yada yada yada. Even though I had a great career and climbed the so-called "corporate ladder" without a degree, I knew there was more to prove to myself, but the timing wasn't right yet. One day, I finally thought to myself, NOW is the time to earn this degree for me...so I did. I earned my Bachelors in Business Management graduating Summa Cum Laude...but I didn't stop there. I also continued my education by earning my MBA with a concentration in marketing as well. See, when I am ready to do something and put my mind to it, I tend to go full throttle towards my goal and usually exceed it.
Another example, the day I decided to quit smoking, and I've tried on many occasions throughout my 20+ years as a smoker. But again, I was not ready to quit smoking on all those other attempts...I was doing it because people wanted me to, rather than me wanting to. When I was truly ready to QUIT and live my life as a non-smoker, I did it and stopped cold turkey. Two plus years later...I don't miss smoking one bit! Maybe Christmas Eve 2008 was not the best time to stop smoking. I was truly the biggest BITCH to my family come Christmas Day, which I feel bad about. But I knew, at that moment, that it was the right time for me. I'm just sorry I made people feel miserable!
As many of you also know, I filmed an episode of Battle of the Wedding Designers as one of the featured designers on TLC last April 2010. The episode was suppose to air last summer around June - the last episode of a 4-part series. Well at the last minute, literally a day before it was suppose to air, commercials already playing (see it here), TLC decided to pull the episode for one reason or another and has not YET aired it to date. When all this disappointment happened, feeling bad for others and myself, I thought, "Why does shit like this happen to me all the time" and "Why is it when I am on the brink greatness or something good...shit like this happen." I think I know why it happened...the TIME WAS NOT RIGHT for me to be in the spotlight. It was just not my time and maybe part of me was also not ready for it to happen. So I had to brush it off, let the ego be healed, and know that one day my time will come. Maybe you can all do a write in campaign and tell TLC - it's PERCY time and to please play his episode {insert happy face here}.
Now, my journey from FLAB to FAB is the right time for me. I could have easily started it in August 2009, when Ross had bariatric surgery. I could have been on the same meal plan he was on so that I could have lost weight with him, but I WAS NOT READY! So when Ross asked me, "why now," in my heart and head I new that why now = because I am ready.
I think that is why so many people fail at different things; they simply are not ready to take the plunge. I know people who have been on diets for most of their life and now I truly believe it's because they were never ready to make that change in their life in the first place. Same thing goes for the people I know who smoke and tried to quit. Know that no matter how pressured you are to make a change or to do something, you are not going to make the change until IT'S YOUR TIME FOR GREATNESS or TIME FOR SUCCESS. I see it with my own kid...he will not back down or do something differently until he is ready to make that change for himself.
I guess the lesson here is...STOP PRESSURING PEOPLE TO MAKE THE CHANGES YOU WANT FROM THEM. Let them make the changes on their own, because they will be far more successful on their own terms. My hope is that everyone realizes when the time is right for them to make a change and for them not to let that opportunity slip by.
Good luck in discovering YOUR RIGHT TIME and thank you for listening to my ramblings.
-Percy
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